I had a similar problem with the spouse ordering being a problem. I found that the only way that would work was to have no current partners and to make sure that the information of the spouse is entered by the order that you want them from scratch. This is possible if there are only a few, but it isn't easy. However, if there are several, then it becomes almost impossible to start it all over. I think that an ordering feature is greatly needed for this to work as well because this is the only work around that I have found that works, but it isn't very easy to do with it being a lot of work.